In the first two folders, we talked about Identity and Advocacy. We opened up the “Truth” folder and laid it all out. But today, we’re talking about the hardest folder to hold: The Wait.
The “Wait Folder” is where we keep the things that aren’t finished yet. It’s where my letter to Oprah and the literary agents lives right now. It’s the space between the “Ask” and the “Answer.”
The Discipline of the “Not Yet”
Most people think waiting is passive, like sitting at a bus stop. But in my world, waiting is a discipline. It’s the time when you refine your craft, strengthen your sobriety, and prepare your heart for the weight of the “Yes” you’re asking for.
When I look at my website, Princesshayes.com, I see a platform that is being built brick by brick. I’m not waiting for someone to “discover” me; I’m building a house so big and so full of light that they can’t help but see it.
Why the Wait is Necessary
If I had received everything I wanted while I was still “drinking to stay sane,” I would have lost it all. The wait was the protection I didn’t know I needed. It allowed me to:
• Heal the Mother: So I can show up for my kids with a clear head.
• Hone the Message: So my advocacy isn’t just noise, but a lifeline.
• Hold the Peace: So that when the big stages come, my “sanity” is rooted in truth, not a bottle.
Filing Away the Anxiety
Inside your “Wait Folder,” you shouldn’t keep records of your doubts. Instead, fill it with:
• The “Proof of Progress” List: Every day you stayed sober, every page you wrote, every person you helped.
• The Vision Board: A reminder of why the wait is worth it.
• The Letter: Keep that letter to your “Oprah” or your “Future Self” right at the front. It’s not a dream; it’s a placeholder for your destiny.
“The wait isn’t a ‘No’ from the universe. It’s a ‘Not until you’re ready to carry the weight of the blessing.'”